For example, maybe your partner has a relatively high sex drive but their engine only gets revved up when they’re already thinking about sex. Again, this will all be based on what you authentically desire in the moment, but saying something along the lines of “I’m trying to get work done but I can’t stop thinking about last week when we were 69’ing and your delicious juices were flowing into my mouth” could be the thing that pushes them over the edge to jumping you.They want to have sex more often but it just doesn’t cross their mind all that often. Any statement about what you have liked doing with them, or that you are envisioning doing with them, is a great way to ease into a super-vocal sex session.

I love how your breath pauses when I put my mouth on your (insert partner’s preferred name for their genitals here).

There’s no where else I’d rather be than inside of you/on top of you right now.”Now… 😉If so, you need to watch this video I just made where I show you the sexual techniques women have been *begging* me to teach men…You’ll learn – Strategies to last for hours in bed…

One good way to test the waters (and to get more comfortable) with your partner is to send them some naughty text messages to see how they respond.

Read on to the “Dirty Talk: Beginner Level” section for some examples of places to start, or go with something from the heart (or crotch).

Some people like being called “you whore” while others prefer “my whore” while others still would never want you to call them anything close to the word whore during any of your lovemaking, ever.

Make sure you check in with your partner (outside of the bedroom, when you aren’t being sexual with each other) to see if there’s any words that they want you to avoid during your dirty talk.

I think we should have some fun ; )– You should probably already have your pants off when I get home… can’t stop thinking about that thing that we did on our date last night ; )– Mmm… You certainly know how to show a lady/guy a good time.

As you might know, if you’ve been reading my work for a while, I have a tendency to gravitate to fairly polarized sex.

Which means that the dominant/submissive roles play themselves out in my dirty talk quite a bit.

For those of you who are looking for a bit more actionable phrases to include in your dirty talk, I’ve got you covered.

And no, it doesn’t take away from the sexiness of your dirty talk if you check in with them. It’s the same well-spring of respect that makes you think to ask your partner if their penis/clitoris prefers softer or firmer stimulation. it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.