Don't interfere with the game because in fact, dating is still an ancient mating ritual that has not caught up to our relative business equality. A man usually wants to win you over and win your heart and that's how he gets invested in you.He will not get invested in you if you try to do his job and pursue him.We continue to identify technical compliance solutions that will provide all readers with our award-winning journalism.

Chances are that when you envisioned this scenario, you assumed it was the guy who approached the girl.

That’s because we have what psychologists call , or a sequence of events that we typically expect to occur in social situations.

You want to get his digits, ask him out, email him, buy tickets to events, and follow up when he doesn't call after the first date to find out why.

But this take charge way of interacting might keep you single.

Consistent with norm expectations, speed-dating research reveals that, women are pickier than men when indicating interest in potential partners, To test this, the researchers had over 300 undergraduates participate in speed-dating events.

In half of those events, participants engaged in the standard speed-dating procedure of men circulating while women stayed in one place.

Let me apologize right now if you find this infuriating, but somebody's got to tell you the truth. That means you allow the man to pursue you rather than trying to jump in and take charge.

So here I am, Ronnie Ann Ryan – The Dating Coach, filling you in, because YOU NEED TO KNOW! Sometimes I literally have to beg women to drop the ball. Leave the proverbial ball in his court and if he wants to, he'll pick it up to pursue you.

My intention is to help the women understand that while we have achieved great strides towards equality in the work place, a mistaken idea has arisen that men and women are equal and therefore now they are the same. And chances are strong the genders never will be because our differences get down to our DNA. The more you think men and women are the same, the more likely you are to undermine a man's role in dating which is highly disruptive to your chances of finding love.